Over the years many meetings have started with the topic "acceptance". I used to think acceptance meant being a doormat for others to wipe their feet on. Or acceptance meant giving up. Of course it means giving up -- my self will, that is.
Acceptance doesn't mean I approve of the thing or that I even like it. It just means that I now am willing to accept the thing as it is. I am willing to let go of my agenda.
M. Scott Peck who said that we as alcoholics are lucky to have alcoholism because in recovery we are led to a sacred life. He called alcoholism a sacred disease.
Today, my life has meaning and purpose because I have been given a gift that enables me to help others. I have a new life, a new attitude, a recognition of the many blessings in my life, and a desire to seek and do God's will. More and more I see that my purpose here is to bless and heal, to offer love and service. It's NOT the life I had in mind when I was downing tumblers of scotch, snorting coke, smoking joints, and chasing women. But God had another plan! Thank God! He picked me off the ash heap, got me sober, and taught me how to like myself and love myself. Coming to AA was not my idea so I can't take credit for it.